The Five Main Reasons Why Marriages Fail
Why do couples get divorced? Although each relationship is unique, the reasons for splitting up are not as varied as you may think.
The five main reasons why marriages fail are:
- Communication Problems. Many couples have trouble with communication even before they say, “I do.” People may not make their expectations clear, or may simply fail to bring up important issues for fear of how their beloved will react. It is vitally important to discuss your feelings about things that are personally important to you, but few couples actively practice this habit. There are some couples that will ignore or gloss over little problems and small irritants between them before they get married, only to discover that these issues have grown exponentially to become a major source of friction after marriage.
Bottom line: If there is an issue that you feel that you cannot talk to your partner about before you get married, that is a definite red flag for problems after you get married. Now is the time to lay your cards on the table so that the two of you can play with a full deck after the marriage.
- Financial Issues. It is often said that money is the last thing people talk about before they get married, and the first thing they fight about after they get married. Married couples often quarrel over issues like shared financial responsibility, unequal financial status, undisclosed or hidden assets, overspending, and lack of financial support. Money is not always the sole or primary factor in divorce, but it is often the single most significant factor. The root cause, once again, is the lack of communication between spouses about financial matters.
- Abuse and Addiction. All forms of abuse can reap havoc on a marriage, not just physical abuse. Sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse can be equally devastating. Often, one spouse’s own demons – in the form of drug or alcohol abuse, or a gambling addiction – can place unbearable strain on a marriage.
- Marital Infidelity. The infidelity of one spouse may irreparably destroy the trust that lies at the core of the marital relationship, and may cause the other to seek a divorce.
- Sexual Problems. If there are unresolved issues of sexual dysfunction or disinterest that persist, it could become a cause for divorce.
Original Source: “5 Main Reasons of Divorce” published at IVPeacefest.
