Don’t Sit Around During Divorce . . . Stay Busy!
The biggest mistake you can make during divorce is to have too much time on your hands. Being idle during this process is to be avoided, because for most people divorce is a difficult process, and you will need distractions to help you cope.
Children may be one thing to focus on, but they can’t be all you have going on. If you work, great! Work can be the greatest distraction of all, because it has nothing to do with your spouse and everything to do with you. For those who haven’t had a job in a while and need to brush up on their skills, you are in luck. These days there are many alternatives for repositioning your skills for jobs in the 21st century.
· Local four year and/or community colleges – Community college classes are usually very inexpensive. There are also great networking opportunities in a college setting.
· On-line schools – These are popping up in increasing numbers and some of them are quite good. I would suggest doing a search on any on-line school you are considering to see if graduates have good things to say about it.
· Volunteering – This is a great way to meet new people in a low-stress way, commiserate over your lives, and sometimes develop new skill sets in a less competitive environment.
· Re-connect with old friends. They know you, and if they find you in a rut they can help pull you out.
These are but a few examples of things you can do to keep busy during divorce. Friends, relatives, clergy, and your lawyer might have some more ideas. Be open, and maybe you will discover things you’ve never even considered before.
